You know that thing we all do when someone asks us how we’re doing and we reply: “good, you?” when really we’re not good. Not good at all.
What if we just all agreed to stop this dishonest nonsense?
What if we all actually spoke our truth when asked how we are doing and stopped pretending and faking being good all the time?
What would happen then?
Might the world fall apart. Worse than it is right now?
Maybe admitting that we’re not ok is actually better. Maybe by admitting we’re not ok, we send a message out to the world that it’s acceptable to be honest about not being ok. Because the simple, raw truth is: we are all not ok sometimes.
And guess what? We all take our turns.
I consider myself a strong person. I’ve fallen down many, maybe hundreds of times, and I know how to get back up. But there have been a few times in my life when that was really freaking hard and it took more than a kick in the pants to get my feet back on the ground. During those times, I reached out for help because I had to. I called on my most solid of friends, I enlisted help from professionals, I leaned on my husband HARD, I cried a lot, maybe every day, and eventually, I made my way back up. But not without a desperate struggle to stay down. Because sometimes, the pull is really strong.
There was a time I just might not have made it without help. And I’m ok with that. Because at the end of it all, I am a better, stronger, wiser, more compassionate & empathetic person AND professional because of those experiences. I’ve taken my turn, and now, when I come across someone who’s fallen into a hole in the ground (maybe a Pandemic trap they never saw coming), I can throw them a lifeline because I’ve been there and I’ve worked hard to be strong enough to hold the other end of the rope so that they can climb on up.
We all take our turns.
So, what if the next time someone asks you how you’re doing, instead of just saying “I’m good, you?”, you take a pause and then offer up the truth. Maybe the truth is that you’re freaking awesome and want to share some exciting news and pass along a little hope. Maybe the truth is that you are very sad and lonely and are feeling confused and anxious about the current state of the world and the upcoming Holiday season. Say it. You may find that the truth opens doors for real conversations that are helpful and productive.
You may find that the truth helps to shed light on more truths.
And more truths may find us all a little more connected.
And we need a whole lot more of that!
Share your truth and see what happens.
Maybe honesty will help us help each other and maybe, just maybe, we can avoid a few unnecessary losses with a little more truth in the world.
Take your turn. It’s ok.
Hey, YOU! If you are struggling and want to work together, reach out! I am currently taking a few new clients looking into the New Year and there is no better time than NOW to put those wheels in motion ♥️